Confession of a MR NICE GUY..

To all the guys out there... How many times in your life have you heard someone calling u a "Mr Nice Guy“？ to the point that the word 'NICE' sounds like something derogatory... well, in my quest to satisfy my thirst for knowledge, i managed to google it and yes... nothing good comes out from the term.. enjoy pple =)

1。）Nice guy syndrome
http://meetyourgreens.com/niceguysyndrome.html

Men who suffer from Nice Guy Syndrome will probably have lots of women friends, but rarely have a physical relationship with any of them.

He may be a very good listener, and perhaps articulate and expressive in how he talks.

He may make a women feel, "At last I have found a man who can listen!". Or perhaps, "Wonderful, this a man who can express his feelings!".

In essence Nice Guy Syndrome is when a man has got locked into the 'soft' side of his nature and has somewhat disowned the 'harder' aspects of his male energy.


2. The 'Nice Guy' Syndrome
University of South Florida
http://isis.fastmail.usf.edu/counsel/self-hlp/niceguy.htm

This is an essay giving the perspective of a Nice guy.

The nice guy, they say, finishes last. But in romantic relationships, the nice guy often isn't even in the running.


Both are pretty long essays, but after a while i realise that they werent related to type of articles i was looking for, thus i didnt bother to cut and paste... do read up if u r interested. ...

Both essays speak of mr nice guy as some desperado who tries too hard to befriend females... yes yes, I know a lot of pple will definitely questioned " AREN'T YOU ?".. its true that in my normal bland/empty conversation, the topic on gals will pop up here and there.. and yes i do notice that at times i sounded like a desperado, waiting to pounce on any unknowing gals along my way... haha.. but has any of you seriously saw me taken any actions??

But guess i will still have to make this point clear,

" I am NOT DESPERATE"!!!

While i do feel awkward walking down orchard road alone on a crowded saturday night, or when i see my friends getting attached/married, the 'sour' feeling is only transient..

Being in one extreme end of the relationship scale has its perks too... it has allow me to shape my own personality, make my own decisions without the influence of anyone else other than my family members.. The couple's love that most pple yearn for is compensated by the close friendships, brotherhoods, family ties that i so greatly cherished... All which MAY not be possible otherwise..

I'm not against the idea of being in a relationship. I still believe that a relationship will be an important phase in my life, which will bring me to a higher realm of existence... but for now, its just not in one of my top 3 christmas wish list**

I believe there will come a day whereby i will see the ONE whom I will share a mutual physical, emotional and spiritual bonding with. But in the meantime, i'm satisfied with the way things are ... and so be it... haha

This post has gone way out of its original motivation... I have started out trying to understand what " Mr Nice Guy" means, and come up with defensive statements over the topic on relationship. But i finally found what i'm looking for...

And the best representative of A MR NICE GUY IS .............

Charlie Brown wins your heart with his losing ways. It always rains on his parade, his baseball game, and his life. He's an inveterate worrier who frets over trifles (but who's to say they're trifles?).

Although he is concerned with the true meaning of life, his friends sometimes call him "blockhead." Other than his knack for putting himself down, there are few sharp edges of wit in his repertoire; usually he's the butt of the joke, not the joker. He can be spotted a mile away in his sweater with the zig zag trim, head down, hands in pocket, headed for Lucy's psychiatric booth.

He is considerate, friendly and polite and we love him knowing that he'll never win a baseball game or the heart of the little red-haired girl, kick the football Lucy is holding or fly a kite successfully.

His friends call him "wishy-washy," but his spirit will never give up in his quest to triumph over adversity.

Before i end off, for those unsung mr nice guys out there who fall into the category of "the nice guy syndrome” articles... This is one last post for you, from a female saluting to u unsung heros..

"Until those important girls are found, I propose a toast to all the nice guys. You know who you are, and I know you’re sick of hearing yourself described as ubiquitously nice. But the truth of the matter is, the world needs your patience in the department store, your holding open of doors, your party escorting services, your propensity to be a sucker for a pretty smile. "

Perserve Charlie Browns, may u soon get the 'red hair gals' whom u have been pining for. As for those non-committers like me, enjoy each and every single day!

Alright, its time to get back to my powerpoint slides... have a fyp presentation on monday.. will blog more on my past one sem in the next post... until then.. AGAPE..

** Christmas Wish List (In order of preference)
1. Nano Pod
2. Sony Cyber-shot DSC-T1
3. Ansys Workbench 9.0 (educational copy also accepted)